The question on the table is: Have you ever achieved some goal or got something you really wanted and not even noticed?
I have. Here’s another example.
As I mentioned in a previous post, my husband recently left his out-of -the-house job and is staying home with our daughter. Long before we were ready for kids, we’d been kind of creating this vision of him staying home with our future children while I worked from home so that we could all spend more time together. He has the patience of a Buddhist monk, loves doing things around the house, and hasn’t yet found a career that he’s passionate about. I, on the other hand, have the patience of a hyperactive puppy, feel trapped when I don’t leave the house in 24 hours, and have a career that I’m so in love with that I’d find a way to do it even if I weren’t getting paid. Most important, we both got really excited when we fantasized about this future vision so it was clearly right.
Stuck in my story about this vision, I thought it was still out in the future somewhere. As it turns out, when I originally started creating this vision with him I set an (arbitrary) income level in my head. I thought, “for this to work stress-free, with the lifestyle we want, I’d need to be making $X per year.”
I can tell you, I make no where near what I thought we needed. The thing is, somewhere along the line I totally forgot that I had just made up this arbitrary figure. This figure became a “fact” and was integrated into my story of how our vision would come to pass. Making it to that income level was the means I thought we needed for the end we wanted. It wasn’t until I sat down and consciously evaluated our values and the limiting beliefs I held that I realized the random income level was totally illogical and my belief was completely not true. Here we were, at the doorstep of the life we’d created, and I thought the door was locked shut.
When I started to dissolve my beliefs around this issue I realized that I was holding the key to that locked door all along. So I had what I wanted and didn’t even notice because I forgot that I made up the conditions to begin with.
What rules or conditions are holding you back? When you examine them with an open mind, is it possible that you’re forgetting that the rules were arbitrarily made up by you?
This is a great post with a perfect demonstration. Thank you for sharing. And now that you've let go of the abitrary "X", I bet you'll start earning it! Without even realizing it. ; )
Posted by: Michelle | June 17, 2010 at 10:06 PM